Mess, Relationships and Humans.

Ohhh I am soooo annoyed today!!! 

I just did a quick clean up of the house and realized what a mess we're living in.

Does no one else see this except for me????

God this is so pissing off.

What's the point of clearing up when it's only going to get back to the state it was in less than a week? 

But its all about Growing the hell up and living like a human being and not someone that came out of a garbage center.

Seeing the mess sometimes makes me want to bawl my eyes out. 

How did this happen? I don't remember seeing this kinda crap when I was growing up.

I clear, and within a week the mess reappears!!!!..... Does this make sense to anyone?????

Anyway, mess aside as talking about it infuriates me to no end.

Relationships.

An old friend got in touch recently and wow, he's been through not 1 but 2 divorces.. amazing. 3 kids in all, 1 ex wife in Malaysia and 1 in Indonesia.. 

How do people get married and divorced so easily?

According to him, first marriage ended because she was constantly asking for extra funding even when the given amount surpassed the comfortable living amount and second marriage ended because well, same shit, different person. (But I somehow believe that he wasn't all that angelic in both relationships either so yeah fair is fair)

Guess these days it's all down to $$$$... The more jiros (Lynne I know you're laughing at this) at the back, the better.

The saying used to be "Money can't buy happiness"  well, in this day in time, that saying may be very very wrong. 

But money spent on divorces and alimony.... wow... what a waste of hard earned cash.. 

Have humans become so greedy that we only see how much money one earns? Or how much we can continue taking from them?

The Husband and I started going out together when he was earning peanuts, we still had fun, watched movies, went places... and I've stuck with him to see his income grow, and shrink. But I am still here.. 

Why do people take the easy way out with divorce? If there are kids in the picture, how do they feel about this? About needing to choose a parent to live with.. about whom to spend their holidays with... so many factors come into play in a child that can really break them to pieces.

Then again, there are times when people divorce due to excessively interfering in-laws.. now this part yeah I understand but there can also be a line drawn and it's called IGNORING THEIR BULLSHIT which if I may say so myself, can work wonders!!!

Humans should stop letting greed get to them.. the more you have, the more you want, and when you don't get more, you start looking somewhere else.

I believe that you learn something from every relationship you've been in.. I've been in 10 and am still in contact with like maybe half of them.. we're on that level of understanding of  Yeah we're ex's.. but we're friends and that's about it.

There was one of my ex's whose wife went ballistic at the thought of him texting me.. she happily blocked me on whatsapp and messenger.. he was rather curious as to why he couldn't find my name or get in touch with me.. till he used his sister's account.. OMG WHY ARE HUMANS SO INSECURE??? 

Trust me, I'm not gonna run away with your Husband. We're ex's and there's a reason to that.. because we didn't click. Being friends however, clicks. There's usually just the normal banter of what a prick they are and random tembak sessions but it's all just fun.

Annoying other humans can be fun. Maybe you insecure ones should try it sometime... 

The Husband knows that I will always be with him unless he pisses me off big time then he will be living in a cardboard box outside the house, at the semak area... Main issue here, TRUST.

If a relationship has no trust, there is no relationship.

It takes two to tango, and it takes both hands to clap.. 

I have never stopped The Husband from going out with his friends, and he has never stopped me from doing so either... he tends to tag along when I'm out with my mates because of the tiny humans who are like leeches sucking out life from me.. he takes them on walks and to see stuff when I'm with my friends so that I can have some Big human conversations and not constantly talking to tiny 4 feet humans.

The Youngest however.. God help me raise her.. Even at my tattoo appointments, she climbs up and sits between my legs WHILE I am getting inked. This amuses Lina, but annoys me. 

I've raised my kids for what.. almost 10 years, plus almost 4 years without sending them to babysitters or day cares.. and to walk away from seeing them growing up would probably be the stupidest decision anyone could ever make.

I did tell  The Husband and The Eldest that when The Youngest starts uni, I am outta here for 365 days.. I'm going to chuck my phone away at the airport and they aren't so much as getting an email or postcard from me.. just 1 year without the word  Mummy...

This is what I say, but then a week without Mummy  and I will be up to my eyeballs in boredom.

Anyway, Humans, let's try and be more sensible and less greedy.... try to make your life a happier one and happiness doesn't require much money really... rather, it needs time, patience, understanding, sharing and lots of laughter.

Alright, phone is dinging away, think it's The Sister and The Cousins..

Have a good Thursday everyone!!

And to those who are going for The Big Bad Wolf Booksale... make sure you have a BUDGET!!!!